Mzukhology

One day I was attending a wedding… Ok, let me tell you about me and weddings for a little bit. I grew up in a rural area, a village as some would call it, famously known in the Eastern Cape as “ ez’lalini ” or “ ez’nkeva ”… growing up I attended a few weddings, I guess my people are fond of ‘ Vat n Sit ’ or it might just be economic challenges. So when I went to a wedding, keep in mind I was a kid, we would play around the tent until some lady called us to stand in a line and give us food. You typical samp & beans, cabbage and gravy. If you got a potato, you were one lucky sanafabish and you better pray the bullies don’t find out. Now the dilemma with a potato is that you can’t just quickly down it, it will choke you and you can’t savour it, you’ll get your behind kicked then lose your potato. See, it’s tough being a kid, choices, choices, choices… So I grew a bit older and the next weddings I attended I would sit inside tent. This was still in rural area so the same s...

Recently a friend shared a link with me, it was a video on You-Tube titled " An Intimate Conversation with DeVon Franklin & Meagan Good "  [ Here it is ] Long story short, the video is about sex and why one should ' wait ' to do it with their partner. You can watch the video if you want to, but don't worry, you don't have to watch for you to follow with the Blog.  The are just notes I picked up from the Video, They are not the summary of the video but thoughts the video triggered, they are applicable to a wider range of things. 1. The video started on a high note by them explaining the difference between ‘ waiting’  and ‘ abstinence ’. Basically abstinence is when you are told not to do something, it’s FORBIDDEN. Oh and we all know about the “ forbidden fruit ”, it just makes you want it even more, it brings out the FOMO in us. Now for ‘ waiting ’, waiting is a choice, waiting has a “WHY” attached to it, there is a GOAL attached to waiti...