An attempt at the legendary Mystery

There are a lot of mysterious things on Earth, things we don’t have answers to. Who built the pyramids? Who shot Chris Hani? When is the world coming to an end? All these mysterious keep us talking and intrigued, but the most mystery of them all, “How to make a relationship work”, not his one is a killer, because there have been so many trial n Errors but still no one has come up with a Generic formula for the public. With all the technology in the world all we can think of and do is try, fail and on to the next one.

This has been a mystery since the days of William Shakespeare, why do you think he made so much money and accumulated all that fame writing about it, because a lot of people want to know.

Shakespeare wrote:

“Let me not to the marriage of true minds admit impediment”, but we can’t find these “true minds” to show us this love.

He didn't give up, he wrote again: “Shall I compare thee to a summer’s day”, but really dog?? A summer’s day?? Who wants to be a summer’s day?? A summer’s day is HOT, liyadika…

So “Dear Shakespear, Dankie siyabonga bawo”…

A lot of people tried before and after Shakespeare, but so far, no one has given the public what it wants… So if you were sitting there thinking about how to be an instant billionaire, here is an idea, create the generic formula on “how to make a relationships work”.

OK let me take a swing at it:

This advice is not in any order and none of the points are less important than the other!!!

Every relationship encounters impediments at one time or another. For a relationship to be solid there needs to be obstacles, because it’s the obstacle that tell you where you need to fix and strengthen. Take the 3 pigs as an example, the wolf showed them that building your house with quickly with grass and sticks won’t stop it from getting you. So you might wanna be the third pig and build you “house” nice and slowly on a solid foundation with bricks and mortar.

Foundation of a solid relationship is TRUST, Yeah you got that right "TRUST”. Honesty should be there, it should be prioritised. One should be truthful about what you feel and what you think AT ALL TIME, no “buts”.

Then the walls of a solid relationship is COMMUNICATION: Be able to communicate with your partner and honestly (appears again) express your thoughts and feeling when something doesn't sit well with you.

Finally the roof of a solid relationship is celebrating and squeezing the shit out of every happy moment that comes by, celebrate each milestones with each other, be happy for each other and support each other at the times of darkness… Hey a relationship was once called a roller coaster ride, basically Up & Downs but since I am doing my Grade 12 I am going to call it a SIN Graph:

Common relationship problems:-

(1) Cold and rejecting attitude: Receiving a cold and rejecting attitude from your Bae is the worst feeling ever, it makes one feel unwanted and unimportant. Sometimes it makes you say “who is the other whore???”

(2) Unwillingness or inability to compromise: Being unable to make time for your partner, e.g “Yow babe, I can’t see you this weekend, chiefs is playing pirates” or “Yhooo baby, sotya kwa Sis Nandi ngoku, mas’nyuke ukhona uKFC apha ngasentla”…

(3) Physiological abuse: This includes the name calling [You Bitch], body language [rolling eyes or sneering], mockery and sarcasm.

(4) Talking to your friends about your relationship problems:  That's plain stupidity because your partner may feel betrayed. Talking to your friends about the problems your partner and yourself are going through is gossiping, yep kukuhleba vele. And gossiping ain't a productive way of handling problems, nor is complaining about them, rather sit with your partner and solve your problems together.

Good luck to everyone...

Yours Kindly

Yanela Sibutha